When Words Become Water

We name the slow, unseen damage constant criticism can do to a marriage, a family, and any close relationship, and we measure our speech against Scripture. We trade the “dripping faucet” habit for grace-filled words that build people up and create peace at home, at work, and in church. 
• the tongue as life or death and the atmosphere our words create 
• Proverbs’ picture of quarrelsome speech as a leaky roof in a storm 
• why relationships often break from constant pressure not one big fight 
• the wind and sun story and why warmth changes people better than force 
• the hidden roots behind nagging like control resentment frustration impatience 
• seven biblical anchors for better communication including listening restraint gentleness and encouragement 
• practical self-checks like true necessary kind and building or breaking 
• prayer for patience healing and guarded speech 
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A Tribute To The Misfits

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It is to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the ones who see the world differently, who don't fit neatly into boxes, and refuse to live by someone else's script. You can quote them, you can disagree with them, you can glorify them or vilify them, you can shake your head at their ideas or be inspired by their courage. But the one thing you cannot do is ignore them. Because they change things. They disrupt what's comfortable, they challenge what's normal, and they push the human race forward. Sometimes with loud revolutions, sometimes with quiet persistence that changes everything over time. They see possibility where others see limits. They dare to dream out loud when the world tells them to be silent. They take risks, they stumble, they rise again, and they keep going. Not because it's easy, but because they can't imagine doing anything else. These are the ones who remind us that every great leap forward was once considered impossible. So here's to them the ones who won't sit down, won't be quiet, and won't stop until the world is different. Because they're the reason it will be.

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Hello. We would like to welcome you to the Food for Thought Faith Cast with my husband, your host, B-rob. So without further ado, here's B-Rob.

Stormy Day And Get Right Clip

Bible Trivia On Biblical Rulers

When Words Become Water

The Leaky Roof Picture

The Wind And The Sun

What Nagging Is Really About

Seven Biblical Rules For Speech

Replace Complaints With Encouragement

Prayer For Patience And Healing

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Hey guys, it's B-Rob, and welcome to the Food for Thought Faithcast. Thank you guys for allowing me to breathe some kind of life into you today. And it is a man, crazy day. Woke up, uh, the whole southeast is like under a tornado watch. It's wild. Nice thunderstorms. It's kind of calm right now, which that's not a good thing, I guess. But I don't know. We're gonna do this podcast anyway. Um it's taking me, it's 10:30. I normally do this really early, but I've done so much stuff, and I want you to hear, I want you to check this out. Check this out first. Hey, check this out. I forgot to do this. Yeah, check it out. God created us here so five. So here's for our health map. 29 offers well, it's a 45. So let's find out W dot 390. Forward at get right. So let's start the journey today. Get right.com, forward, and get right. Uh what y'all think about that? Yeah, that's pretty cool, I thought. That's pretty cool, yep. So we'll uh learn more about that as we go. But today's podcast is kind of interesting because it's storming outside, and this is uh this is a hot subject. This is a storming subject. Um the title it's gonna be called When Words Become Water. So, yeah, stay tuned, stay tuned for that. First, we're gonna do a little uh we're gonna do a little Bible trivia. All right, we're back, we're back. Now we're gonna do some Bible trivia. We're gonna talk about kings and pharaohs and other rulers of the Bible today. So here we go. Four questions. First question Who built pagan temples to please all his foreign wives? I'll give you a guess. It's obviously in the old testament. So let's uh give it a second. All right, if you said Solomon, you got it right, and that was in 1 Kings chapter 1. No, excuse me, chapter 11, verses 1 through 13. 1 Kings chapter 11, verses 1 through 13. All right. Which gospel claims that Pilate had the plague, the king of the Jews fastened on Jesus' cross. The plaque, excuse me. Which gospel claims that Pilate had the plaque, the king of the Jews, fastened on Jesus crossed? Which book? All right, let's give it a second, let's give it a second. Come on, y'all know the answer. If you said John chapter 19, 21 to be exact, you are correct. You are correct. All right. Number five, I mentioned this guy in the podcast yesterday. Huh? What king had a sinister prime minister named Haman? What king had a sinister prime minister name Haman? That would be officious. Effecus? Yeah. I couldn't pronounce it yesterday either. That's in the book of Esther, three, one. Yeah. All right, guys, last one, last one. What king is supposed to have written Ecclesiastes? Which king supposedly writ wrote Ecclesiastes? All right, give you a second. All right, if you said Solomon, you're correct. That's Ecclesiastes 1-1. Boom. There you go. All right, guys. All right, that was uh Bible trivia. All right, back to the faith cast. Like I said, we're gonna call this one when words become water, and I'm glad you guys are here today. I think everybody needs to hear this. Everybody, because today we're talking about something that affects every single relationship. Everyone that I know of, um, you could say almost every relationship, but it's something the Bible addresses in a very, very vivid way, um, which is what we call in modern terms, nagging, constant criticism, quarrelsome speech, uh, murmuring is an old term. Um, you've heard of old sayings like words can build you up or words can tear you down. The Bible actually says it even stronger. It's a life or death thing in the Bible. If you look at Proverbs, if you turn your Bibles to Proverbs 18, verse 21, the tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. So, in other words, we speak the shape of the atmosphere and the realities of our homes, our marriages, our friendships, our churches, our relationships in general. Um, scripture warns us about something that slowly damages relationships, which is constant complaining and repeated criticism. Proverbs even compares it to dripping water on a roof in a rainstorm, and over time it becomes unbearable. So today we're going to look at what the Bible says about it, why it's destructive, and how God calls us to replace constant criticism with grace-filled communication that actually builds people up and creates a positive reality for you. So grab your Bibles if you don't have it, and let's dive into this thing together, guys. And before we start, I just want you to know that this is a touchy subject, but everything that I'm saying, these are all truths, okay? These are all truths, they're not meant for anybody, but if the shoe fits, wear it. And this can be, this can go both ways, female, male, so don't think I'm pointing out anything specific. Just listen to what I gotta say, listen to the scripture behind what I gotta say, because honestly, the truth doesn't care about your feelings, and that's that's the truth. So take it easy on me, and here we go. So, um, like I said, uh this one's gonna be called uh When Words Become Water. And the first verse we're gonna look at, we're gonna get this out of the way. We're gonna look at Proverbs chapter 27, verse 15. It says, A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm. Man, that's that's powerful. That is uh, that's ever had a leak, leaky roof, especially when it's been raining for days? Yeah. Fill up buckets fast, right? So think about something. We're talking about the power of words, okay? So if your spouse, whether it be your wife, whether it be your husband, you know, if if they're quarrelsome all the time, think about a leaky roof. I mean, that's something that it's gotta be fixed. So think about this. Words can either build peace, or they can either create war, especially in relationships. They can build peace or create pressure. You see, a lot of homes aren't destroyed by big fights, by by trauma, this, that, and the other. It's it's usually by constant criticism, complaints, nagging. You see, the Bible warns that repeated negative speech can slowly erode a relationship just like water, just like water erosion. You see, in Proverbs 18, verse 21, it says the tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it eat its fruit. You see, words shape the emotional climate of your environment, of your home, of your workplace, of your school. You see, constant negativity drains joy. It drains it from the relationship between the two individuals that are in that environment at that time, and now we have phones where it can do it via text message, just like TVs can project. The technology is wild, it can be used for good or bad. Think about that, but let's get back on the subject. The Bible warns about constant nagging, the Bible uses vivid imagery to describe the damage caused by continual complaining. That sort of thing, that sort of murmuring, that sort of nagging, that sort of complaining creates emotional exhaustion. If you look to Proverbs 27, chapter 27, verse 15, it says a quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm. And you can replace that with husband. I mean, think about something. Imagine trying to fall asleep in a quiet house, but there's a faucet dripping in the kitchen, like the kitchen faucet's dripping, and you can hear anything. You don't have any fans on. I'm talking about a dead quiet house. Middle of the rainstorm powers out. You see, that's the picture that Solomon is given here in Proverbs. You see, constant nagging may seem small to the person doing it, but over time it becomes emotionally exhausting, emotionally draining, spiritually exhausting, spiritually draining. You see, the Bible is describing constant conflict and repeated criticism. Like it destroys the home. In Proverbs 21:9, it says, better to live on the corner of a roof than share a whole house with a quarrelsome wife. And you can replace that with husband as well. It's better for you to camp out on the roof in the rain, whatever it may be, than to share the house with that quarrelsome person. If you flash forward to 2119 in Proverbs, it says, better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome or nagging wife. Once again, you can replace it with husband. But see, the important part, the important part here applies to any person, not just wives. That's what I s that's why I keep saying that. That's the important part. That's the point. You see, there's an old story. Remember the old story, the famous story where the wind and the sun are arguing over who's stronger, who's got the bigger muscles, who can do the most. And they saw a dude down walking wearing a coat, right? So the wind said, watch this. I can make him take his coat off faster than you can. So the wind blew hard, hard, trying to force the guy to take his coat off. But the stronger the wind blew, the tighter the guy held the coat, right? So then the sun laughed. He goes, watch this. Hold my beer, right? So the sun started shining bright and warm. So then the guy took his coat off. You see? The application here, the moral to that story is people can rarely change under pressure or negative criticism. But people, humans, respond positively, better, to warrant, encouragement, and grace. The gifts of the Father. Imagine that. And guys, you can look at it new age, whatever you want. Energy fields. If you give somebody negative energy, you're gonna receive negative energy. If you give somebody positive energy, you're gonna receive positive energy. Do the experience experiment yourself if you're a science person. Walk into a room with someone you know or you do not know and start yelling at them and see what happens. Act mad. Or walk in and say, hey man, I just want to say I appreciate your friendship, I love you, and God has huge plans for you. And see the two different responses you get. You see what I'm trying to say is constant arguing, constant badgering, constant complaining makes a relationship unbearable. To the point where it's hard to think. You know, and it works both ways, and see a lot of times there's a different route behind the nagging. It's usually not the issue being nagged about, you see. There's all there's there's usually different hitting meanings that come from this sort of activity or behavior. One is a frustration, B would be control, wanting to control the situation that you cannot control. Or C, there's resentment there, unresolved hurt. Or D, there's a lack of patience. You see? So there's either frustration, a want to control. There's either a resentment of unresolved hurt, not maybe by the person that it's being nagged upon, but maybe by somebody else. Maybe it's displaced unresolved hurt or resentment. And there's always lack of patience. But see, the Bible says you should have a different attitude towards life, towards relationships, towards communication. If you turn to James chapter one, verse 19, it says, Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. You see, a lot of times complaining, nagging, that sort of thing often happens when we are quick to speak and slow to listen. A lot of times it's a reaction. You see, an example would be like a hammer can force a nail into place, right? Or anything into place. You can force a book into a bookshelf that doesn't fit if you use a hammer. But it's probably gonna leave some damage, right? It's probably gonna smash it. You can force anything with a hammer, sledgehammer, that sort of thing. But see, a gardener, what does a gardener do? It tends a garden, it waters, it nurtures, and it patiently watches and helps things grow into life. You see, nagging tries to hammer. Complaining tries to hammer things into place. You see, God doesn't call us to hammer anything into place, God calls us to be gardeners in relationships with our communication, encouraging growth instead of forcing it or trying to hammer it home. The only point in gardening is life and to help life grow. The only point in hammering is to destroy and to force something into something that does not fit. You see, words a lot of times reveal the condition of the heart. If you look at Luke 6, verse 45, it says, For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. Now I'm going to say that again. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. You see, communication problems are a lot of times heart problems first. If there's constant criticism that comes out, there's a heart that's usually filled with frustration, resentment, or pride. Next point. Seven points. This is point two. Too many words often lead to sin. That's biblical as well. Look at Proverbs chapter ten, verse 19. Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongue. You see, that means sometimes the wisest people communicate in silence. You see, nagging comes from repeating the same issue over and over and over and over. Kind of like trying to chant a spell. But some of the wisest people listen and stay silent and choose their words. Number three, gentle words always calm conflict. You cannot win a war with war. You can only have peace with peace. In Proverbs 15, verse one, it says, A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. You see, tone in the way you use your voice often matters more than the actual message itself because like people listen to music, but not words. I mean, I'm a content guy. Nowadays you have to actually do more than listen to the words. You got to pay attention to the content and the punctuation because you can get all messed up by the words alone. But anyway, that's another story. But it says a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. You see? The same thing can either start a fight or bring understanding, depending on how it's said, what I was just talking about. Number four, wise people think before speaking. I just said that. Proverbs 15, 28. The heart of a righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. You see, wise communications are intentional, they're not impulsive. Evil communications are impulsive, they're not intentional. I mean, their intent is to hurt. But it's not a good intention, and that's what we're talking about. So, number five, encouragement, giving encouragement, speaking encouragement, strengthens others. First Thessalonians five, eleven, it says, Therefore, encourage one another and build each other up. So in every conversation, you should ask this question Do my words strengthen that person or do my words weaken that person? Let's move on to number six. Kind words bring healing. Look at Proverbs 1624. Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and healing to the bones. You see, kind speech can actually restore a wounded relationship. That's truer words have never been said. Last and number seven, God holds us accountable for our words, what we say. Turn your Bibles to Matthew chapter twelve, verse thirty-six. It says, Everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have ever spoken. That's scary, huh? Communication's not just relational, but it's spiritual accountability to God. And you want to know why it is? It's because God cares deeply about how we communicate to each other, how we talk to each other, how we build each other up. He does not like to see us tear each other down. That is the evil one. The evil one comes to steal, kill, and divide and destroy. You see? So we need to speak words that build each other up instead of constant criticism. You see, the Bible teaches encouragement. It teaches constructive criticism. Constructive speech, encouraging speech. In Proverbs 15:1, it says to speak with gentleness. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. You see, gentleness reduces tension. And nobody wants tension except the enemy. You see, nagging and complaining increases tension. And we're to we're to spare to build people up. God built us to build people up. In Ephesians 4 29, it says, do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths. But only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs. And we're all guilty. I'm even guilty. It's a tough subject. It really is. And I hate that person. What I'm talking about is when I do it, I despise that person. I have to repent. So today, guys, you need to ask yourself: are my words building or my words breaking? I mean, another food for thought. Think about this. Imagine someone compliments you ten times today. Ten. That's a lot. But then one person criticizes you, or you have an encounter that's negative with one person, and that person speaks harshly to you. Are you going to remember the ten tonight? Before you go to bed, or are you going to remember the one? Which one's going to have a more of an impact? Probably the one, right? You see how that works? You see, that's why the Bible says in Proverbs 16, 24, gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and healing to the bones. We're supposed to practice patience. We're supposed to practice grace. In Colossians 3, verses 12 and 13, it says, clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another. You see, healthy, good relationships require patience. They don't require pressure. So, guys, pray before you speak. Ask God to give you the word. Psalm 141.3. Set a guard over my mouth, Lord. Keep watch over the door of my lips. Help me communicate clearly once instead of repeating constantly the same thing. Healthy communication is honest, but it's respect. And it's done respectfully, not like a child who has none or hasn't been taught any. Guys, we have to try to replace our complaints with compliments. We have to try to replace our complaints with encouragement. Because people respond better to affirmation than they do to bad criticism. And guys, we have to, most of all, so we do not do that. We have to trust God with what we cannot control. Because a lot of times nagging is just trying to control someone else's behavior. You see? But transformation ultimately comes from God. It does not come from pressure, it does not come from a hammer. It comes from the warmth of the sun of Jesus. So, guys, today make the choice to choose words that bring life. Because God calls believers to create environments marked by peace, homes marked by patience, work environments marked by encouragement. He calls us to create those things instead of being constant criticizers. We should be life bringers. Proverbs 1624 says, Gracious words are a honeycomb sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. So today I challenge you, ask yourself before you speak, is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Have my words been encouraging or exhausting to the people around me? Am I repeating criticism or am I speaking life? Because guys, the same mouth can either become a dripping, annoying faucet, or a beautiful fountain of life. Let's go to the Lord in prayer. Dear Heavenly Father, we come to you today, Lord. We just thank you, Lord. We just we pray for patience. We pray for the ability to think before we speak, the ability to speak life into the environment and the people around us, Lord. We pray to become gardeners for you, Lord. God, we we thank you. We just thank you for the ability to have the choice. Lord, just we pray that you give us the heart, that you break down any barriers so that we may speak life, we may live life in a positive manner, Lord. We pray, we thank you. We thank you for your blessings, Lord. We thank you for your lessons. We we thank you for your grace, your mercy, Lord. We pray for anybody that's listening on this faith cast that needs healing, that needs you today, Lord, we we pray that they may seek you, your heart and your hand. It's in Jesus' holy, heavenly name we pray these things. Amen and hallelujah. Well, guys, we thank you. Don't forget to visit the website. And guys, if you like the podcast, if you if you if you like what you hear, please, guys, please share it. Guys, I love you, God loves you, and don't forget, if you don't have a relationship with Jesus, if you're unhealthy in your mind, body, and soul, you need to get right. 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